Let’s go back to 16th March 1969 to a 10-year old Tina.
Tina has always had a love for music and as a 10-year-old that passion was fixed within her. As she was across the road from her home at a dancing competition, she was blissfully unaware of news she would receive that would set her life on a completely different path. If you could choose a point in life where a decision or event, diverted you on a different course, this would certainly be it for Tina.
Tina returned home to the news that her dad, who had been reading he paper when she went across the road for her exam, had suffered a fatal heart attack!
The girl that she was supposed to grow into never appeared and hadn’t appeared for 50 years, until now.
Tina sits before me confident, sure of herself, stating that the person I am meeting today, had things been different, would have been drawn towards something similar to what is happening now, much earlier on in her life.
“Tina’s life abruptly changed”
When her father died, her mother was in her early 30s and didn’t go out to work. They lived in a pub and so lost their home. The nearest family being almost a hundred miles away and being the oldest child of two, Tina assumed her unspoken role in the family; gave priority to the way her mother was feeling and kept an eye on her little brother, normally before her own needs. The death of her father was not mentioned for over 20 years! Everyone around tried to carry on as though nothing had happened! Tina found it difficult to continue without having an outlet for her grief, so this made its appearance in other ways.
For the next 50 years Tina took responsibility for everyone else. As a mother of three children who were faced with a range difficulties and issues, Tina had little time to follow her own dreams. Now they are grown, left home and doing the best they can within the confines of whatever their situations are; Tina feels freed up to focus on herself for the first time since her father died in 1969.