Drugs, Sex & Rock ‘n’ Roll….
 
…are unfortunately not the answer to you living your best version of yourself, reaching self belief and ultimately the success you want and soooo deserve!
 
Cheap ploy? Sorry! Well it’s not the sexiest subject and I had to get your attention some how! But what is then?! I hear you cry?!
 
Openness, honesty and transparency…. boring! Boring it may be, but truths, it is…
 
From as far back as I can remember I was taught that being honest was the best way to be…not lying, not fibbing, not hiding the truth and owning up to any mistakes that you made. So that, I reckon, was one of the earliest values that I gained and that’s what I did. I didn’t fully understand the reasons why, I just knew that it was what good and kind people did and I wanted to be a good person and liked of course…
 
But something changed as I grew older…I learnt that not everyone else was honest. People lied, cheated and were purposely deceptive. They hid who they really were or let you think they were something that they weren’t, were manipulative and verging on cruel. I also learnt that being honest didn’t automatically make people understand or know that I was honest, kind and good. I learnt that people made assumptions based on what you looked like, before you opened your mouth, would blame you for a wrong doing, when there was no way humanly possible you was to blame or would use your honesty against you.
 
 
 
 

I began to question people, be wary of people, not trust everyone. I observed people and refrained from getting involved, until I felt comfortable and at times, that meant, not at all. I built up a wall, so that those people could not take my honesty, openness and transparency and use it for bad. I learnt who I could open up to and who I couldn’t. Occasionally I’d be fooled; let my guard down to be hurt again. I vowed never to do it again and then did, because it was part of me, was part of who I wanted to be, so I couldn’t deny it. I scalded myself for being too trusting…

Only by going through those experiences did I begin to realise, it wasn’t me who was wrong to be open, to be honest, to be myself. It was them for being cruel, uncaring, selfish and devious. Those things were fine to be, that were instilled in me as values. They were good traits to have and I shouldn’t dumb that down for anyone, but be selective about the company I chose, so that I didn’t need to build those walls to protect myself in the future….

From then on I made an extra effort to be open and honest about who I was and didn’t suppress it for anyone. I’d hold my hands up if I’d made a mistake, I’d challenge other peoples’ dishonesty or deception and my circle of friends became about quality and not quantity. When I teach or train, I’m honest about my knowledge and if I’m not sure or don’t know the answer to a question, I’ll say that I don’t and don’t try and fumble my way through it with a fake response.

My enthusiasm shines through because I don’t have to pretend that I am passionate about what I am delivering. It is what I am. My honesty promotes trust and an environment where people feel they are valued and can ask those questions they first thought were silly. I am allowed to work in a completely transparent way and all clients experience the same service as a result. There then is no confusion and everyone works to the same standard; everyone knows where they stand…

I seemed to be a magnet to random people just opening up to me, being truly honest with me, even if I’d only just met them or didn’t know them well. I never really understood why, until recently. My own value of being honest and open in turn bred trust, trust that people can confide in me, that I’ll listen without judgement. I also enjoy being honest and open! Showing vulnerability is such a human trait, yet we are discouraged to show it? Why? We are all vulnerable and have our own vulnerabilities and sharing those does not show weakness. Quite the opposite. It shows our strength and creates a bond. Think about a bond you have with someone close… I put money on it, that bond was created because you shared a time of vulnerability (but that’s a topic for another blog)… Complete openness, honesty and transparency….
 
Openness, honesty and transparency; not only with others, but with ourselves about what we really want, what we really need and what we need to do to get there, will make the journey so much smoother, so much easier to steer through. If you think about times in your life when either yourself or someone close to you has not been these things, how has it ended? With someone getting hurt? Feeling manipulated? Deceived? People being angry that they’ve been tricked? On a bigger scale, more than an individual level; huge companies (no need to name and shame), that were trusted, have come tumbling down, businesses built on deceit, hiding a scandal, get found out and the effects are a ripple of devastation.
 
What has this to do with positivity and self belief? You’re probably thinking? In my opinion, if the foundations of anything are strong, then nothing can shake them; you have a good chance of success with whatever you’re trying to build and those three things are key. They promote positivity, trust with others and no matter what happens, your word, your integrity will never ever be questioned.
 

My Instagram has very much become a page about being open and honest about the journey that I am on, to reach self belief and daring myself to go for my dreams. Not acting as an expert, but as a learner of experiences and sharing how those experiences have shaped me and what I have taken from them.

This journey has challenged me to be truly open and honest with myself about what I really, really want! Not what I’ll be ok with, not with what I will settle with, what I really want! I suppose, it starts with you…I mean, if you can’t be open, honest and transparent with yourself, then how are you going to be able to reach that passion and dream? Living an honest life, doesn’t only mean being honest with other people, it means being honest with yourself about what you really want to do and who you really want to be. You are then no longer working against something, you are working with it; riding the wave and using the energy that you’ve always had and it becomes easier…
 
Until next time…
 
Serena x
 

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31 thoughts to “What Basic Attributes, Could Help You Achieve Your Dreams?| Journey Towards Positivity & Self Belief

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    Cyndi Buchanan

    This is such a fantastic thing to strive for. You can be truly happy with yourself when you can be yourself no matter what.

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      Serena Rogers

      Hi! Yes, not always easy to do, but something I am striving for. Thank you for your feedback!

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      Elizabeth O

      I think honesty is a very important trait we should exercise at all times.

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    Joanna

    I believe that most people are good inside and they want to be honest. They lie and deceive because that’s what life thought them to do. Experiences growing up in bad environments only bring mistrust and closed walls around people.

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      Serena Rogers

      Yes, life does do this, but I suppose it is up to us to not allow life to harden us, otherwise we will never be able to enjoy it in it’s entirety. x

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    Renee

    I love this read! It was not at all what I thought it was going to be. I love how you included openness. So important

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    Beth

    I’m glad that you’re embracing the values you were raised with and are being the kind of person you want to be. I hope you are successful in reaching your goals!

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    Shadrack biwot

    Great read there

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    marjiemare

    Believing in ourselves and remaining positive is the key to overcome any challenges that life throws at us. Thanks for sharing this beautiful post.

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      Serena Rogers

      Thank you soo much for your comment. Much appreciated!

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    aisasami

    It can be hard to be open and transparent, especially in communal spaces like the workplace. That is why I find a group of people, either online or offline, that share the same values as me and that is whom I confide in.

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    Zoë

    I love the idea of being open and honest and I value it in my friends. I value it even more in someone who knows when to be open and honest, as I don’t think it is the best all day, every day.

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      Serena Rogers

      Absolutely! It’s not about putting everything about you on show, I suppose you can look at it from the point of view of the services you offer as well. Not everyone deserves your deepest desires, fears etc…

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    Jackline A

    Great post. Such interesting points about following your dream. Never thought about transparency.

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      Serena Rogers

      Thank you 🙂 In my industry transparency and honesty is absolutely key, therefore it has shaped my own values, so I place it high in my own life.

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    Lora

    This post is so relevant. I still struggle to open up and let people close to me. But it shouldn’t necessary be a bad thing.
    Great post, thank you 🙏🏻💙

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      Serena Rogers

      Definitely not a “bad thing” just something to consider on your own journey when ready 🙂 Thank you for reading and leaving me a comment.

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    Nicole

    It’s so important to be open with yourself. I have definitely learned to be honest and open with not only others but with myself as well, it helps with the growing process for sure.

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      Serena Rogers

      It is! If you can’t be honest with yourself, it makes for a much trickier life I think.

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    mainak biswas

    Beautifully compiled.. Completely agree that honesty is a very important attribute.

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      Serena Rogers

      I appreciate your feedback! Thanks for reading!

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    Arun Dahiya

    I completely agree with you. Honesty and transparency are the attitudes that help you in long run and make you a trustworthy person.

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      Serena Rogers

      Thank you! I feel it makes for a great attribute when self employed or setting up a business! Customers highly rate these traits!

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    I think this is so important!

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